A few years back I was exercising at Curves and one of my fellow lady Curvers had a daughter that was being Bullied who also came to Curves . She was attending a local high school and several girls made her life miserable. Her daughter went into counseling but her anxiety kept mounting and she was suffering now from physical issues. Mom and I talked often and I so much liked her daughter who came sometimes with mom and sometimes at other times.
Mom knew that I worked with different schools offering an after school tutoring program and knew that I was a Learning Consultant. We weighed all the pros and cons and finally I suggested that she visit that other school in the township(they had two high schools), talk with a guidance counselor and have her daughter do the same.
After much debate over the summer months, she and mom(yes, it was a decision made together) decided she would change schools. It was a good decision. Her life turned around, she made new friends, and her physical issues were resolved. Just for the record, I felt that she would be better off changing schools.
There are many issues to consider. But the most important one of all is your child’s emotional well being. Every child deserves to be in an emotionally safe environment. This problem can be resolved at the school but it would take too long and at the cost of the victim’s emotional well being. This problem is insidious and it needs the support of parents and school administrators alike to find not only the band-aid solution but the one that transforms a community.
Even though the victims change schools, they are left with deep wounds that affect them for a long time. The solution allows the victim to not be re-wounded each and every day and healing can begin. They need counseling and lots of support from home. Becoming Emotionally Intelligent was my ultimate healing, the one we all can benefit from for it is also the healing of the areas of the brain that respond to positive input and restoration.
Please comment and let me know what your decision was and why! Karen