Hello CJs

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I watch CNN and listen to so many of their experts. Each of their responses is reactionary with little action take in a proactive demonstration of how we can address all the violence perpetrated upon children either by peers, parents, adults, and experts.

My voice will continue to address the need for raising a new generation of emotionally intelligent children and communities. Loss of life, integrity and respect comes in all forms and we need a new approach. Nothing else has worked. Please share my voice with those who have experienced bullying and who have been touched by this violence.

Your comments would be so appreciated! Karen

Hello CJs,

In my last post, I said in the title that bullies were deprived and that is why they were not able to be grateful for who they are and for who other people are to them.

Bullies have not heard the voices that allow them to know themselves as good, kind and compassionate beings. They have been bullied themselves and it is all they know. Yes, we are the voices we hear. We act like the voices we hear. EI behaviors and activities teach how to interact with good, kind and compassionate voices. Learned as a child, it becomes who you are. These skills are not just part of our development, they must be learned.

Bullies have been deprived of all the voices that the EI behaviors and skills teach. Gratefulness is one of the skills that is so important in being emotionally intelligent. This skill helps you to persist in the face of frustration. For when things aren’t going your way, being grateful for all you have and are, gets you to the next action that takes you out of victim and delivers you to seeking help and moving forward.

Believe me, it works for being grateful has gotten me through the worst of times.
Looking forward to your comments!!!!

Karen

Hello My Fellow CJs,

Being grateful is a very important skill that is part of becoming emotionally intelligent. I thought I was being so grateful until my teenage daughter at the time was complaining constantly about all the designer clothes she didn’t have. I was a single parent and couldn’t afford them but believe me she was always dressed stylishly and within our means. I couldn’t understand her ungratefulness. I was doing the best that I could. I posed this dilemma to a counselor of mine.

Be careful asking a question to a person who is going to give you a straight answer. My counselor said that I was teaching her this. “Who Me?” Well, I was grateful for some things but she heard me complaining about money and what I couldn’t afford. She just changed it up to not having designer clothes. Oh my, I had to clean up my act. As a result of this, I started a great thing that lasted for years. Every Friday night, I had lots of guests on Friday nights, we would say “our gratefuls”. In just several months, I didn’t hear those complaints out of either of us and a wonderful tradition was started.

Pick a night at your dinner table and say those gratefuls. Watch what wonderful things occur!